Saturday, December 28, 2013

BREAST CANCER RESEARCH RIGHT NOW! 16 – “Survey Reveals that Most Women Have an Inaccurate Perception of Their Breast Cancer Risk”

From the first moment my wife discovered she had breast cancer, there was a deafening silence from the men I know. Even ones whose wives, mothers or girlfriends had breast cancer seemed to have received a gag order from some Central Cancer Command and did little more than mumble about the experience. Not one to shut up for any known reason, I started this blog…

Every month, I’ll be highlighting breast cancer research that is going on RIGHT NOW! Harvested from different websites, journals and podcasts, I’ll translate them into understandable English and share them with you. Today: http://www.asco.org/sites/www.asco.org/files/bcs_13_research_release_-_letterhead.pdf

While it seems “impossible” that women today – and the men who love them – would be unaware of breast cancer, its challenges, and its dangers, a survey done of 10,000 New York women showed that less than HALF of them have ever even discussed breast cancer with their doctor.

The statistics for breast cancer in 2013:
  1. About 232,340 new cases of invasive breast cancer will be diagnosed in women.
  2. About 64,640 new cases of carcinoma in situ (CIS) will be diagnosed (CIS is non-invasive and is the earliest form of breast cancer).
  3. About 39,620 women will die from breast cancer
  4. Breast cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death in women, exceeded only by lung cancer.
  5. The chance that breast cancer will be responsible for a woman's death is about 1 in 36 (about 3%).
  6. There are more than 2.8 million breast cancer survivors in the United States. (This includes women still being treated and those who have completed treatment.)
As I am NOT a woman with breast cancer, though married to one of the 2.8 million survivors (three years in March 2014!), I cannot say for certainty why this is.

The Susan B. Kommen Foundation, The American Cancer Society – the biggest names I can think of – are certainly not slacking in their mission.

The women my wife has met who have dealt with breast cancer have ALL been willing to share their lives with her. She has returned the favor to women who have come to her.

So why do so relatively few women talk to their doctors?

My GUESS is fear. Humans are peculiar beings. How many times have you named a fear only to have someone “shush” you because naming the fear might cause it to happen? As if saying, “They might die.” will be the cause of someone’s early demise!

My wife, daughter and I are watching the entire series of MASH episodes. It’s taken us a couple of years, but we’ve reached season 11, disk 2. Last night we watched “UN, the Night, and the Music”. As is the formula for MASH, there’s a humorous storyline (Houlihan falling for a Swedish UN doctor) and a serious storyline (BJ is forced to remove a gangrenous leg of a young soldier). In the second story, BJ mentally beats himself up after finding out the young soldier has a wife and baby daughter at home in the States – just like him. There’s every reason to believe that they will have to remove the man’s leg, but BJ out-and-out refuses to even speak of the possibility – as if saying it will make it happen.

But it’s the infection that takes the leg, despite everyone NOT saying anything about it.

Breast cancer will happen because it’s an insidious, sneaky, and invisible disease; not because a woman asks her doctor about it.

Those of us who love someone who has survived breast cancer; or someone who has loved some who has not survived – need to continue to talk and encourage friends, relatives, and anyone else we know well. Clearly the ad campaigns aren’t working.

Perhaps what’s needed to change these numbers is the PERSONAL TOUCH?


Saturday, December 21, 2013

Round Four: Random Thoughts On Breast Cancer, Reconstructive Surgery, Lymphedema, Pain, Work, Suffering, and Joy

From the first moment my wife discovered she had breast cancer, there was a deafening silence from the men I know. Even ones whose wives, mothers or girlfriends had breast cancer seemed to have received a gag order from some Central Cancer Command and did little more than mumble about the experience. Not one to shut up for any known reason, I started this blog…

Random, huh?

Whew! Talk about random! Why would thoughts of death intrude on this holy time of year when we celebrate Santa Claus, children, “Ho, ho, ho!”, RUDOLPH THE RED-NOSED REINDEER…

Oh, and the Birth of the Christ Child.

I think about how Target and Walmart and Kay Jewelers and Marshall’s have coopted the season. And Christians fight back with pictures of Santa kneeling at the Manger.

My wife and daughter and I watched one of our season’s favorites the other night, Joyeux Noël (a 2005 French film about the World War I Christmas truce of December 1914, depicted through the eyes of French, Scottish and German soldiers…written and directed by Christian Carion…screened out of competition at the 2005 Cannes Film Festival…nominated for Best Foreign Language Film at the 78th Academy Awards. The film was one of Ian Richardson's last appearances before his death on 9 February 2007.)

The one Christian Holy Day Wall Street has never been able to coopt is Easter, because Easter is secularly speaking, about a gruesome, governmental execution. For Christians it’s about sacrifice and Resurrection – much like the film, Joyeux Noël.

Much like life in the shadow of death that breast cancer brings everyone who experiences it, loves someone who experiences it, works with those who experience it.

This holiday season is somewhat sober for me for many reasons. Yet somehow that has created in me a deeper appreciation for the joy of this same season – a profound thankfulness for many, many things. This thankfulness isn’t like the Christmas play in MERRY CHRISTMAS, CHARLIE BROWN! Rather it’s like the thankfulness of Linus’ recitation of Luke 2: 1-14 – calm, peaceful, fully aware of what he is saying.

May your Holy Day Season be the same.

Saturday, December 14, 2013

BREAST CANCER WISDOM 7: From Others and From Life Here…

From the first moment my wife discovered she had breast cancer, there was a deafening silence from the men I know. Even ones whose wives, mothers or girlfriends had breast cancer seemed to have received a gag order from some Central Cancer Command and did little more than mumble about the experience. Not one to shut up for any known reason, I started this blog…


As a high school counselor and a teacher for 33 years, I’ve seen fads come and I’ve seen them go. Usually they fade away and no one pays any attention to them after they’re gone.

Tats are different. Tats are forever.

My daughter got a tat!

Anyway, tats seem to be here to stay; in vogue for now; for those who get one, they are FOREVER.

There are few things I can imagine getting tattooed for. There are few things that are really worth remembering. I never recommend getting a bf/gf’s name tattooed. Nor a favorite band. Those things pass away either literally or figuratively. Commemorations are OK – my uncle had a Navy tat commemorating his service in WWII. I can’t imagine that there are a whole bunch of tattoos from Vietnam.

But tattoos in support of breast cancer survivors seem to be something that will be around; like God and Bible verses; like “faith, hope, and love” – while the person may not be around forever, the concept will.

So here’s my inspiration this week. This also has the advantage of covering a broader base of Humanity than usual, with a mother-daughter Native American tattoo…

Enjoy and be inspired!

Monday, December 9, 2013

INTERNET DOWN SINCE THURSDAY!!!!!


Our INTERNET is LITERALLY broken. We don't need a "new router" or a "new modem". The actual, facutal DSL physical connection is broken and won't be fixed until Tuesday (at the earliest).

I will resume posting THEN...Tuesday, December 10, 2013, probably evening (if all works out well).

Guy