Saturday, January 17, 2015

GUY’S GOTTA TALK ABOUT #11…Life TOGETHER!


From the first moment my wife discovered she had breast cancer, there was a deafening silence from the men I know. Even ones whose wives, mothers or girlfriends had breast cancer seemed to have received a gag order from some Central Cancer Command and did little more than mumble about the experience. Not one to shut up for any known reason, I started this blog…

We joined Planet Fitness during the Christmas holidays!

I know, I know...EVERYONE joins The Club after the holidays because they’ve got their New Year’s Resolutions to fulfill. And The Clubs offer Special Deals!!!! Like PF offers a “No Commitment” Deal of $10 a month and no commitment!

My observation is that not only are they being...sarcastic, they’re being realistic. Sarcastic because how can you commit to a new lifestyle if you don’t have to commit to it? They’re being realistic because I’m sure that every New Year ushers in a rush of people who are Going To Get Fit This Year.

 My wife and I have BEEN those people more than once in our lives, but This Time It’s Different! (I’m sure you’ve all heard that before...) The thing is, is that this time it is different. Why?

First of all, my wife is now an almost-four-year breast cancer survivor. The initial surgeries are healed, the IV chemo is done, the breast reconstruction is done, and she’s as healed on the outside as she’s going to get.

Second: I had treatment for skin cancer in November and December. This brought the concept of invasive disease more close to home than it has ever been. It made me think. It made me shudder. It finally made me act with an attitude SO cavalier that I doubt anyone knows how horrified I was.

Third: We have grandchildren. It has been my avowed intent to be there for the weddings of my son and daughter-in-law's kids; and any that my daughter and whomever she pairs with has. My wife joins me in that.

Fourth: We are AGING (gasp!) Things are harder to do because the joints and muscles ain’t what they used to be. The benefits of even a MILD exercise regimen are documented (http://www.livescience.com/42820-light-exercise-benefits.html) and now that the nest is basically empty, two futures present themselves: we can watch whatever TV we want to, go to whatever restaurants we want to, stay at home and not have to interact with the world as much as we want to; or we can start going to a non-threatening, and moderately inexpensive gym, learn muscle-building and cardio workouts TAILORED to us and our age and condition (with the Trainer who comes with The Club’s standard package and who actually knows what she’s doing in general if not specifically when dealing with breast cancer survivors). One will end in a matched set of couch potatoes. The other will end in a matched set of sore, tired AFTER mild exercise, couch sweet potatoes (which are better for you than regular potatoes, but not by much.)

Fifth and final: As long as we’re going to grow old together, we might as well make sure that we’re doing things...together. Exercise is new for us and instead of joining different exercise groups and clubs and exclusive organizations, we’re going to do this...together. I love my wife and we’ve raised two kids, advanced our careers with education and experience, traveled together, worked together, and done everything else together. Now we’re going to get as healthy as we can be together. I’m certainly not going to win the Mr. Universe Pageant (http://www.thatslife.com.au/Article/Real-Life/Real-Life-Stories/Im-Mr-Universe-and-Im-60), but together, me and my wife CAN be healthier. Exercise. Better diet. Lots of talk. Classes. It all goes together.

And it’s what we’re going to do – TOGETHER!

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