SEX (after and during breast cancer treatment…)

From the first moment my wife discovered she had breast cancer, there was a deafening silence from the men I know. Even ones whose wives, mothers or girlfriends had breast cancer seemed to have received a gag order from some Central Cancer Command and did little more than mumble about the experience. Not one to shut up for any known reason, I started this blog…

After my “Brain Cancer” essay, I predict that this will become my most popular post…

It’s one I knew I would get to, but is way too personal so I also knew I’d NEVER get to it.

A movie we watched last night has spurred me on to finally write this.

HOPE SPRINGS (with the word “eternal” just hanging there, unwritten, unspoken but entirely appropriate and implied at every twist and turn in the plot.

Take a three of my favorite actors – Meryl Streep (for multiple movies that we love!); Tommy Lee Jones (for MEN IN BLACK); and Steve Carell (for making us laugh repeatedly…and for NOT doing one single funny thing in this movie!) – and create a story that can easily lead to CONVERSATION.

Which is I have discovered, more important than anything in a marriage.

I once read that the most important sex organ in the a Human body is not…ahem. It’s not…ahem. It's not...ahem. It’s not the skin.

It’s the BRAIN. And the brain, while doing all sorts of things (which HOPE SPRINGS talks about brilliantly) directs intelligent conversation.

It led last night, to all kinds of things, some of which I’ve talked about before: http://breastcancerreaper.blogspot.com/2011/06/i.html, http://breastcancerreaper.blogspot.com/2011/11/big-hairy-deal.html, http://breastcancerreaper.blogspot.com/2011/08/what-would-men-like-better-bigger-boobs.html, and some of which are new, like this Indian-sounding thing I’ve been reading about called “kareeza” (http://www.reuniting.info/) which we will be exploring in the future.

So for all you sickos (8-D) who were hoping for a quick thrill, go rent the movie and then rub that most important sex organ of all…your head!

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