What does “I’ll be there for you!” look like?

The blog address came from an earlier title I tried for this blog. Didn’t work. The new title is a better reflection of me – and if you’re here, I hope it’s a reflection of you…http://breastcancerreaper.blogspot.com/search/label/Introductions

First, listen to this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGTOru7pwL8&feature=related

Though I rarely watched the TV show FRIENDS, my wife and daughter (along with a gazillion other people in the US and around the world…) watched the show often. My daughter was given the first few seasons by a friend of hers (upon whom she thought she could count in this season of cancer – but who bailed on her repeatedly…) and she still has them. I don’t think she watches them though because the connection is too strong.

Recently my wife posted a blog entry on CARINGBRIDGE that (in a gentle way) asked the question, “Where are all the people who said they were going to be there for me?”

Don’t get me wrong, there are several people who still support us, who still visit, call and get past the, “So, how are you doing?” stage. They are there, but some who said they’d “be there” have not been. Some who aren’t here use the words glibly and then don’t back it up with action.

I get the whole idea of praying for us. We appreciate that immensely; we appreciate the people who have committed to pray for us. Those are not the people I’m talking about. I’m talking about the people who say, “I’m there for you!” but aren’t.

There are verses to the FRIENDS theme song that are NOT in the show intro. You have to poke around a little bit to find them, but there’s a verse that strikes me here:

“No one could ever know me
No one could ever see me
Seems you're the only one who knows
What it's like to be me
Someone to face the day with
Make it through all the rest with
Someone I'll always laugh with
Even at my worst I'm best with you, yeah”

To tell you the truth, there are not many friends that have said that to any of us.

I guess we expected too much. *sigh*

If you’re one of the FRIENDS, make an effort to live up to the lyrics above. If you’re a breast cancer patient or a caregiver, seems to me like the only one we can REALLY count on for that kind of friendship lives in our hearts.

Image: http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_rnzsk1Q7D18/TVI_wtZagSI/AAAAAAAAAx4/TV0V5-meS5E/s400/friends01.jpg